honor our parents
Fr. ROY CIMAGALA,
August 23, 2018
LET’S never forget the
fourth commandment. In fact, with the current temper of the times,
we have to reintensify our observance of this commandment that seems
to be taken for granted nowadays for a number of reasons.
For one, there seems to be
a generalized weakening of family life in the world today. More
parents are getting alienated from their children and vice-versa due
to some developments whose impact on family life is not well
There are some laws that
actually undermine family life, such as the law on abortion, etc.
And there are now many aspects of our social and professional life
that contribute to this weakening of family life.
We have to remind everyone
that the honor, respect, obedience we owe to our parents is due
first of all by the fact that they are our first connection with
God. It was through them that God put us into existence.
We have to remember that
we all come from God, and not only from our parents. When we see our
parents, we have to learn to see God immediately behind them. They
are the first representative of God to us.
Yes, they all have their share of weaknesses, mistakes and sins,
some of them grave, but all these do not and cannot detract from the
fact that they are our procreators who cooperated with the Creator
in bringing us to life.
They may even beget
children through the commission of a crime, like rape. But that
again does not take away the truth that they have been an instrument
of God in putting a person into existence.
A child is not only a
biological being. He has a spiritual soul even while he is still at
the first stage of fertilization and gestation. That is why a
fertilized human egg is not just a matter of cells. He is already a
person with a human spiritual soul.
Parents, of course, should
try their best to realize deeply the dignity and the serious
responsibility they have. They should not play around with their
status as parents.
But as far as the children
are concerned, they are duty-bound to honor and love their parents.
St. Paul already spoke clearly about this duty: “Children, obey your
parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing
to do.” (Eph 6,1) And, “Children, obey your parents in all things,
for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.” (Col 3,20)
Children should try their
best to make their parents happy all the time. They should avoid as
much as possible to give them problems, especially the unnecessary
ones. They should be quick to lend a hand in the house chores. They
should prepare themselves for the time when they will have to take
care of their parents in their old age.
Inculcating this duty in
the mind and heart of the children is crucial because this is the
first step that everyone learns how to obey other legitimate
authorities. Let’s remember that we as social beings, let alone
political ones also, always have to be subject to some authority,
and it is important that we know how to be subject to authority.
Everyone should be
reminded that any legitimate authority we have in this life is
always a participation in the authority of God. Consider the
following words of St. Paul:
“Everyone must submit to
governing authorities. For all authority comes from God and those in
positions of authority have been placed there by God. So anyone who
rebels against authority is rebelling against what God has
instituted, and they will be punished…” (Rom 13,1-2)
So, it’s clear that the
commandment of honoring our parents, our first authority on earth,
paves the way to our proper submission to the other authorities in