Time for
magnanimity
By
Fr. ROY CIMAGALA, roycimagala@gmail.com
May 16, 2013
IT’S either a bright sunny
day or the blues. That’s what happens after the elections. Not
everyone can be winners. There will always be losers. But whether one
is in or out, what we should try to avoid is to become spoiled winners
or sore losers.
The political exercises we
just had are just that – some kind of sports. We play to win, we do
our best, yet in spite of all, we should not be surprised if we lose.
And we just have to move on. Of course, if we win, then we should also
be ready for the usual bad elements that go with the winning.
Now is the time for
magnanimity, deleting the heady, intoxicating surge of victory or the
depressing load of defeat. This is not the end of the world yet. And
while we are still on the road, we just have to try our best to learn
precious lessons along the way.
We need to enlarge our
heart, to make it more universal to accommodate everyone and any
situation and condition properly. We should evade being caught by the
grip of our strong views, and even our positions that we think are so
essential that they are not anymore subject to opinion.
This is our usual pitfall
that we should try to be wary about always. We have the strong
tendency to dominate others especially in a game or exercise for which
we give an all-out interest and spend so much money and effort.
In the first place, we
really need to purify our intentions before, during and after any race
or contest. The intention should be to give glory to God, to show our
love for him and for everyone, the common good, through acts of
service.
When that intention is
corrupted, that is, when it orients itself to oneself rather than on
the common good based on God’s will, then we enter into a predicament,
a highly toxic situation. We actually would be setting ourselves for a
most painful fall.
We need to be very attentive
to this need because many are the elements and factors every step of
the way that would tend to grab us to make rash judgments,
uncharitable thoughts, petty envies, raging anger and hatred.
We are prone to fall into
what is called as bitter zeal and self-righteousness, and a spiral of
worries, anxieties and resentments. That’s when we think we are the
sole owner of what is right, true and fair. We would become
Machiavellian to protect and defend our positions.
Without magnanimity, we
easily become emotional, that is, we think with our emotions rather
than with reason, and much less, with our faith, hope and charity. We
caricaturize the positions of opponents while canonizing ours.
Without magnanimity, we fail
to understand why others think the way they do. There’s always some
reason, perhaps flimsy to us but very convincing to them, as to why
they think they do. But we tend to make our own views the absolute
truth.
In short, without
magnanimity, we become rigid, short-sighted and narrow-minded, unable
to go through the humane process of analyzing and clarifying issues.
Obviously, it would be difficult for us to be tactful and courteous in
the discussions and argumentations.
Let’s be sport and
magnanimous. We should think well of the others no matter how
different and even in conflict our views may be. The ideal is that
while we can have different and even conflicting views, we manage to
be friendly to everyone. We would have no enemies.
We should focus more on what
is essential rather than on the incidentals. And if the discussion
centers more on what is essential and what is incidental, then we
should proceed with extreme caution and prudence, knowing to choose
the right words and the right timing.
We need to have a firm grip
on our feelings and passions. That’s why we should make part of system
the practice of self-discipline. We cannot overemphasize this. A
person who may be bright and articulate but lacks self-discipline
would be a pure pain in the neck.
There are times when that
self-discipline expresses itself in just absorbing all the dirt that
can be thrown to us without reacting immediately. Self-discipline
enables us to see things in a much wider perspective, and equips us
with the skill to know when to wait and when to move, when to speak
and when to keep quiet.
Let’s take advantage of the
little daily opportunities to practice and grow in magnanimity in our
dealings with people.