Fr. ROY CIMAGALA,
May 15, 2021
WHY not? In fact, thatís
how sex should be if we have to remain truly human and a child of
God. Sex is a human act that is meant not only for our own good but
also and primarily as a means to glorify God. Yes, to put it
bluntly, sex is also meant to work out our own sanctification, which
is the real purpose of our life here on earth.
Sex is not just an
expression of our animality, a function purely of our hormones and
instincts, a pursuit for dopamine. Itís supposed to be guided
rationally and most especially by faith, hope and charity.
We have to overcome the
idea that chaste sex is a contradiction in terms. Sad to say this is
how many people regard this God-given human power. Itís time to
extricate sex from such primitive mind-frame, and put it on the path
where it is supposed to be, a path that leads us to God.
In this regard, of course,
we have to deal with this very delicate issue properly. Enough with
treating it as some kind of taboo that should not be talked about.
Obviously, we have to be discreet and prudent in discussing it, but
it should be tackled head-on.
I find it quite funny that
about the only time sex is openly discussed in public is when it is
about the different techniques one can use to derive the greatest
pleasure from it. Thatís how sex education is done these days. But
about how sex can be made chaste or a means of our sanctification,
there is almost complete silence.
And because of that
set-up, the anomalies that issue from this human faculty of ours
have proliferated beyond recognition. Self-abuse, pre-marital sex,
infidelities, sex addiction, and all kinds of perversions are
practically exploding, and they now involve children and old people,
and even those we normally expect not to get involved in this kind
of problem. This problem has been a quiet pandemic for a long, long
Abetting this problem now,
of course, is the easy access to pornography which, thanks and no
thanks to our new technologies, has already created a formidable
network that is now very difficult to resist. It has caught many
people in its web.
We have to bring out more
often the true beauty of sex as a gift from God that is governed by
certain laws that are meant to give us our true joy, not the fake,
deceptive and harmful one. And we need to talk more about how sex
can be lived or resorted to according to Godís will.
Obviously there is need to
talk more about the practical means of discipline and self-control
in order to make sex chaste, given our weakened or wounded condition
here on earth. But these prudential norms should be portrayed in a
Also there is need for
practical and immediate guidance especially to the young ones who
are already feeling the stirrings of sex, and also to those who have
some special needs with respect to sex. Letís hope that we can count
on a good number of people who can carry out this delicate task.
We should try our best to
put up a working culture of chastity around. This should not be a
laughing matter anymore. It may require some major effort at
readjusting our understanding of this matter and our ways of
handling it, but it would be all worthwhile.